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Home » Learn » End of Life and Grief » How to Embrace Grief and Give it Space to Breathe

How to Embrace Grief and Give it Space to Breathe

Contributing Writer: Kim Adams, certified professional coach, end of life guide, and founder of Powerful U End of Life Coaching

Grief is the natural, common response to a loss

And loss is a human experience. Therefore, we each experience loss in one form or another. We tend to most often think of grief after the death of a loved one. However, grief occurs along the journey of life (divorce, loss of friendships, job loss, etc.), and throughout the journey of caregiving.

We also grieve at the anticipation of loss (grief that our loved one will no longer be the same), the loss of their identity and independence, and the loss we feel as our role of caregiver impacts our own life.

Embrace Grief

Our society gives us all kinds of messages about how to handle grief and many of them are about either denial or holding on too tight. I’m offering us an opportunity to embrace grief without allowing us to be consumed by it.

Let’s view it as it is — energy in motion — and allow it to flow over us like a wave fully trusting that we will not drown. Trying to suppress or ignore these feelings will only cause more pain and will trap it in our bodies.

We need to give grief space to breathe and move through us.

Grief is an emotional wound to our heart and I believe it is in direct proportion to our loving. Trying to be stoic and appear with the facade of having it “all together” is not beneficial at all.

Self-care is Vital

There are times that we just need to let our hearts break. And self-care is paramount during these times.Take time out to just be, and to recharge.

Surround yourself with supportive people who are there for you. Just feel and let your heart break for what was. Wanting and wishing for a different outcome is futile and will expend your precious energy.

Grief can be a constant companion along the journey of caring for a loved one. Sometimes it is front and center and other times it is pushed to the background or sent to the sideline.

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Asking the ‘why’ questions or trying to figure out the answers to what it all means with our rational brain is futile. Remember that grief is a wound to our heart so trying to make sense of it with our mind will only lead to more heartache. Instead, be curious and invite it to show you a message or gift.

When we think of this end-of-life journey we are all on — some are closer than others — and with the fact that tomorrow isn’t promised to any of us, we have a wonderful opportunity to live well now. As caregivers that also means grieving for what was, and for the further decline and death of our loved ones that is to come.

We can, however, practice a few things that can support us:

  1. Practice gratitude: regardless of what is happening in our life, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for. Choose to focus on that.
  2. Be open to the unknown and the uncertainty of the situation; a common response to the unknown is fear, and fear usually results in some type of restriction.
  3. Consciously choose to open up and trust that even in those low moments when you cannot see what is to come, that you will be guided toward the next step.

Take good care of yourself and know that while we each travel our own path on this journey called life, we are never alone. Allow yourself to be supported.


About the author: Kim Adams is a certified professional coach, end of life guide, and hospice volunteer. Her business, Powerful U End of Life Coaching focuses on supporting people to ‘create the roadmap NOW for the final chapter of their life’ with Advance Care Planning regardless of age or medical status

Kim is a sought after speaker and conference presenter on grief, loss, and end of life topics including Advance Care Planning. Her heart-centered approach allows people the space to reflect on what is important to them while living, so that they can prepare for the end whenever that time comes.


If you would like to learn more on this topic, be sure to watch the replay of the Together in This Empowerment workshop where Kim shared additional guidance:

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